I can't remember where I read it now...I've been reading all sorts of blogs recently...but I read about the concept of the future being purely based on fantasy and said in such words it kind of resonated within me.
This sentiment was later echoed as I was playing a listening exercise to my exam class about a teenage sailor preparing for his sailing voyage around the world.
'There is a big gap between imagination and doing something.'
he said, as he described how he prepared himself for the trip and what it was like in reality.
I've always been a daydreamer. I loved making up fantasy games as a kid, daydreaming about the future and various scenarios as a teenager and making plans with high expectations way into adulthood.
So when situations or people then failed me I would be disappointed. The daydreams or ideas I had would fall away...but you see...they were never really real. They were predictions and fantasies based on flimsy present day evidence and I put too much importance on them.
And here is another thought, based on a discussion I had with a friend: when you engage in a relationship with someone, initially you both have your fantasies and expectations of what that other person might offer you, or how they might enrich your life...but if those fantasies don't meet in the middle...well, it can also crumple.
And when you are presenting yourself to the person you desire, you often present only the parts you think they want to see so you feed their fantasy for some time and visa versa...but at some point it all has to come out: the pretence, the mask...you can't keep it all hidden. As they say: 'it all comes out in the wash...'
So you see, there is a lot to be said for taking things slowly, for not getting carried away with the fantasy and keeping your eyes open and yourself grounded in the now. The fantasy of course can be fun and exciting and it is nice to get caught up in it and swept along, but if things go wrong you need to recognise that you played a part in the fall out by expecting so much or by allowing preconceived ideas to cloud your vision of what truly lay in front of you.
I'm talking about this with regards to relationships, but I think it can be applied to other aspects too such as work and friendships and life in general. I love planning things but I'm beginning to think that less is more sometimes. You appreciate things more if you don't totally overload yourself. Quality rather than quantity has always been hailed as a better option.
Anyway...just some ideas I have been mulling over... (Besides the recent usual: zombie risk assessment, virtual realities, what characters in action films do after the action is over and they return to normal life etc etc... :) )
This sentiment was later echoed as I was playing a listening exercise to my exam class about a teenage sailor preparing for his sailing voyage around the world.
'There is a big gap between imagination and doing something.'
he said, as he described how he prepared himself for the trip and what it was like in reality.
I've always been a daydreamer. I loved making up fantasy games as a kid, daydreaming about the future and various scenarios as a teenager and making plans with high expectations way into adulthood.
So when situations or people then failed me I would be disappointed. The daydreams or ideas I had would fall away...but you see...they were never really real. They were predictions and fantasies based on flimsy present day evidence and I put too much importance on them.
And here is another thought, based on a discussion I had with a friend: when you engage in a relationship with someone, initially you both have your fantasies and expectations of what that other person might offer you, or how they might enrich your life...but if those fantasies don't meet in the middle...well, it can also crumple.
And when you are presenting yourself to the person you desire, you often present only the parts you think they want to see so you feed their fantasy for some time and visa versa...but at some point it all has to come out: the pretence, the mask...you can't keep it all hidden. As they say: 'it all comes out in the wash...'
So you see, there is a lot to be said for taking things slowly, for not getting carried away with the fantasy and keeping your eyes open and yourself grounded in the now. The fantasy of course can be fun and exciting and it is nice to get caught up in it and swept along, but if things go wrong you need to recognise that you played a part in the fall out by expecting so much or by allowing preconceived ideas to cloud your vision of what truly lay in front of you.
I'm talking about this with regards to relationships, but I think it can be applied to other aspects too such as work and friendships and life in general. I love planning things but I'm beginning to think that less is more sometimes. You appreciate things more if you don't totally overload yourself. Quality rather than quantity has always been hailed as a better option.
Anyway...just some ideas I have been mulling over... (Besides the recent usual: zombie risk assessment, virtual realities, what characters in action films do after the action is over and they return to normal life etc etc... :) )
1 comment:
This is most true, dear sister. xxx
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